NO Tummy Time Necessary

Allowing babies to move freely, according to their own inner schedules and dictates,  is a hallmark of Magda Gerber’s RIE philosophy. When babies are allowed to develop naturally, in their own time and their own way, they learn to move with ease and grace. They tend to have excellent body awareness and posture, and a good sense of where their bodies are in space.

Allowing a baby’s gross motor development to unfold naturally means avoiding placing babies into positions they can’t get into or out of on their own. Ideally, young babies are set on their backs not just for sleep, but for playtime as well, because this is the position that most supports their bodies, and in which they are most relaxed and free to move. What this means is no tummy time for babies until they spontaneously begin to roll first to their sides, and then unto their tummies. It means not pulling or propping a baby with pillows into a sitting position until he can move into this position on his own. It means avoiding all baby “containers” like bouncy seats, exersaucers, and baby swings, and using car seats judiciously. It means not lifting a toddler onto a piece of play equipment, like a slide, that she can’t yet scale herself.

There are many advantages for babies who are allowed to develop their ability to move on their own without adult assistance or interference. For instance, they are safer and less likely to fall from playground equipment and injure themselves, because they develop good judgment. As Magda Gerber said, “If they can climb up by themselves, we can trust that they can climb down safely.” (For an excellent description of how children learn to sense where their bodies are in space, see: Learning to “Sense” Space: Why Kids May Fall Out of Bed,  at Moving Smart.)

It turns out nature has a plan, and it’s a good one. All children develop gross motor skills in the same sequence, and all that varies is the timing. If children are given the opportunity to practice moving freely, they will be in tune with and strengthen their ability to listen to their innate body wisdom. At every stage, in every way, they will be doing exactly what they need to do to prepare themselves to achieve the next milestone. Their gross motor abilities will unfold before our eyes- no adult help or intervention is necessary. They will not attempt to use equipment or take risks they are not yet ready for.

When we place babies in positions that they are not yet able to achieve on their own, we may put them at risk of injury, of developing poor coordination and posture, and equally importantly, we risk cutting off their inner agenda, and their self-initiated exploration. There are recent studies that show that babies placed in baby walkers and exersaucers, actually develop their ability to walk at a later date than babies who have not been exposed to such devices.

Magda suggested that babies know best how to be babies, and there are just some things we should not rush. The message babies might get when we “help” them, by pulling them to sitting before they can do it on their own for instance, might be this one: “I don’t value and appreciate what you can do, but I expect you to do what you can not yet do.” Is this the message we want our babies to get? What implications do you think this has for a baby’s developing sense of self, his ability to learn, or her ability to trust herself?

Another thing to consider is that when we put babies into positions that they can’t yet achieve on their own, we make them dependent on us, because they have limited mobility, and are stuck until we come to rescue them.

Most young babies are very uncomfortable, and loudly protest when they are placed on their tummies to “play”. They can’t yet lift their heads or hold them up for very long, so they can’t see much. The ways in which they can move their arms and legs are limited. All they can do is learn to endure the discomfort they feel, or cry, and hope someone will come to move them into a more comfortable position.

I learned from infant specialist Magda Gerber, who learned from her friend and mentor, Hungarian pediatrician Emmi Pikler, who learned from carefully observing and documenting the development of hundreds of babies over many years.

And if seeing is believing, all you need to do is watch this short video montage of baby Liv, which follows her development throughout her first year. This four-minute video, produced by Irene Gutteridge, as part of a project called The Next 25 Years speaks volumes about how babies learn to move easefully and gracefully, from back to side, to tummy, and back again. Just look at Liv’s face when she achieves her goal of turning onto her tummy. Priceless!

Changes Afoot

I haven’t been blogging often as of late, since I’ve been busy working with a web designer to give the web site a much needed and long overdue re-design. The goal is to debut a more visually appealing, much more user friendly site, packed with useful resources and inspiration to support families and others who are interested in learning more about what Magda Gerber’s respectful approach to being with babies might have to offer.

I can’t wait to have the tools that will allow for more interaction and discussion among all of us! As it stands now with the current site, this is a cumbersome process.

Besides working to update the site, I’m gearing up to start a weekly Saturday class locally in Santa Cruz, and I’ve been working with a business coach to guide me through this process in an intelligent way. Who knew starting a small business isn’t as easy as hanging out a shingle?

To be honest, I did know, but I didn’t anticipate what a feat it would be trying to accomplish this task while caring for and providing full time support for a family with two small children. Having the support and guidance of my brilliant business coach Ryan Eliason (at www.ryaneliason.com) has made all the difference in terms of helping to keep me sane and on task.

I am trying to be patient with the process, and the time it takes to make and build connections in a new community. This isn’t always easy for me, but is good practice for being with babies, because being with them requires the same kind of willingness to be patient, go slowly, and wait for growth and progress to manifest in it’s own good time. It helps me to frame it this way anyway, when I am feeling impatient, and want to see results yesterday!

I’ve had the pleasure of providing private consultations and workshops to a small number of local families this past year, and I will be speaking to a number of local parent groups in the near future as well.

I have also been busy reading and commenting on other people’s blogs. Anyone who knows me even a little, or has read my blog, knows that I am a voracious reader. I read to learn, for enjoyment, for answers to questions, for inspiration, to be challenged. I need to read like I need to breathe. And I love reading blogs, because not only does doing so provide all of the things books provide, but blogs also provide the opportunity for discussion and debate, which is something else I value highly and enjoy immensely.

I’d like to share links to some of my favorite sites, the ones I find inspiring and helpful in my work with children and families, and I would love, love, love, to hear from you about your favorites.

Here’s where you can find me: www.janetlansbury.com. Janet Lansbury is a mother, and a RIE parent educator. Magda Gerber was her dear friend and mentor. elevating childcare is her on-line resource for parents, and she’s just added a community forum as well. This is the blog I wish I could write!

Kathleen is a mom who wants to participate in conversation about politics, the environment, food, wine, and parenting- when she has a moment 2 think. She’s at amoment2think.wordpress.com/.

Parenting Science bills itself as a site for the thinking parent. They can be found at parentingscience.com . They examine the science of parenting and child development. Because inquiring minds want to know!

The following sites are of particular interest to me as well, as they resonate with deeply held beliefs and values: In Praise of Slowness at carlhonore.com. Carl Honore has been called the father of the Slow Movement. He says the slow movement is not about doing everything at a snail’s pace, but about doing everything at the right pace.

Simplicity parenting at simplicityparenting.com. Simplicity parenting focuses on using the power of less to raise calmer, happier, more secure children.

Last but not at all least, Campaign For A Commercial Free Childhood (the little non-profit that could!). CCFC works to counter the harmful effects of marketing to children through action, advocacy, education, and research. Find them at commercialexploitation.org.

Happy reading, and conversing!